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Weighted Down with Love Life Worry


Got questions about life? Love? Parenting? Work? Write to Whit’s End, a new advice column by local husband, father, teacher, coach, former executive and former Marine Corps officer Al Whitaker.  

Dear Whit:

My girlfriend of four years (live-in for one) has been putting weight on gradually for about the last three years. When we first met she looked like a model—tall, slender but muscular (she was an athlete in high school), and really good-looking. In the beginning we used to work out together by going to the gym or running near our neighborhood.

Even though I love her, I find myself less and less physically attracted to her, so our sex life is suffering.  If I talk to her about it, she says she feels hurt and that I should love her as she is. Our intimacy is getting to be non-existent to the point that I just want to give up.

If I could get her motivated, I feel sure we could get back to where we used to be. But when I tell her that I’d like to work out again with her, she says she’s tired after work and just wants to relax. Part of the problem, I’m sure, is having a beer every night and more on the weekend. Since I work out, I don’t put on weight, and I think that makes her mad at me.

Breaking up with her would really hurt both of us — and I can’t imagine doing it — but I just can’t see going on like this, especially when I know that she expects us to get married. What should I do?

Weight on my Mind

Dear Weight:

Imagine not doing it, and imagine the worst-case scenario: She continues doing whatever made her overweight so that she keeps getting bigger, and your love life keeps getting smaller. You say you’re not physically attracted to her now, imagine how you’ll feel in five or ten years.

Think about what you mean when you say, “I love her.” Accepting your partner as she is is certainly part of love; in fact, a big part of love is being happy with and for someone who understands and accepts you, warts and all. In this case, her warts seem to be getting bigger, and you’re not sure that you’ll be able to keep accepting them.

Michael Phelps Hits Red Carpet with Model Gal Pal on Arm


Baltimore’s Michael Phelps stepped out last night with his girlfriend of five months, Los Angeles-based model Megan Rossee.  The couple are said to have been dating for five months.

The 25-year old Rossee and Phelps, 27, attended a Speedo event together, where she told the press she has faced a barrage of media attention following the reveal over the weekend that she is the Olympic champ’s lady friend.

Read more about the romance at E-Online.