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The Futility of Trying to Control Destiny in Love, in Life

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Got questions about life? Love? Parenting? Work? Write to Whit’s End, a new advice column by local husband, father, teacher, coach, former executive and former Marine Corps officer Al Whitaker.  Each week Al will address readers’ questions about anything ranging from school issues, coaching problems, relationship quandaries and more!  His experience is vast, and he holds a degree in psychology, too. To submit a question, email [email protected]

Dear Whit,

As a 27 year-old female with a successful, professional career, I generally feel confident in both social and business environments. However, as I now finding myself somewhere between the two, and I’m not sure how to handle the situation.

Recently, I detected a more-than-just-work interest from one of my male colleagues. He is my age and has been at the firm for less than a year versus my three, so I guess he is still relatively new.  The reason I mention his time on the job is that so few of my peers, who could give me their read, know much about him outside of work.  Whenever we collaborate on a project, he smiles and just sends out positive vibes, all of which gives me that feel-good, tingling sensation. (Maybe I’m blushing, but I’m not sure.)

Since I have no way of knowing what his feelings are toward me, my dilemma is asking him to get together and risking poisoning the well at work or doing nothing and wondering what might have been, perhaps to the point of damaging my focus at work.

Sometimes (but not regularly), a group of younger employees (around our age) will go out after work to happy hour, which could present an opportunity to get to know him better. On one hand, I think that if he were interested, he would have already have gone, but on the other hand, maybe he doesn’t want to seem pushy. So, I guess what I’m wondering is whether I should just let it happen, or as a confident, successful person, take control of my destiny.

Destiny’s Child

Dear Destiny,

First, before we go any further, let me address the issue of controlling one’s destiny. Sportscasters use the phrase ad nauseam without really understanding what it means. For the record, one’s destiny is what will happen no matter what; so, by definition, you cannot control it. We know from Greek mythology, especially, that individuals who try (think of Odysseus, of The Odyssey fame and Oedipus, of Oedipal complex fame) just make the gods mad and make the situation worse.

However, because you are a confident, successful professional, you want to take control and make the situation better. Realize that you can’t take control when other people are involved, but you can improve your odds.

When I say your odds, what I mean is the chance that you will get to know someone whose company you enjoy—wherever that takes you.  “Only connect!” as E.M. Forster’s character Margaret Schlegel passionately exclaims in Howards End, an exhortation by the author to make personal relationships paramount.  So, try to genuinely get to know him as a friend, first, by asking him to join the group after work; second, by not agonizing over all the pros and cons of a romantic involvement with him; and, finally, by leaving that destiny business to the professionals who can actually do something about it.

 

What Is Love Anyway?

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Love. Local writer Lucy Avalled recently redefined the four letter word when her serious boyfriend was sent to jail.

Love is patient. Love is kind. Love doesn’t make fun of me for my obsession with drag queens and lets me watch marathons of RuPaul’s “Drag Race” reality show without questioning my credibility as a grown-up. Love dismantles his drum set and moves it to the garage so that we can have space for my computer desk. Love is trying really, really hard not to cry in the courtroom as I watch him be escorted to jail.

This Week in Research: How to Save Earth from the Asteroid & Say “I Love You” in Latin

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Today’s asteroid flyby will not actually come all that close to our planet — it’ll stay a safe 17,000 miles away. Still, that’s the nearest pass by an object of its size (comparable to an airliner), and if it did hit, it would do some serious damage. So how do all those astrophysicists at Johns Hopkins plan to save us from the asteroid that is on a collision course with our planet — something that, statistically speaking, is bound to happen soon enough?

Happy Valentine’s Day, but beware…

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This video of an unfortunate marriage proposal was sent to us earlier today. Consider it a cautionary tale, and remember: If you’re planning to propose tonight, make sure you have a pretty good idea whether or not she’ll say yes.

Happy Valentine’s Day.

Vote For Your Favorite Love Story and Help a Couple Win a Free Wedding, Hon

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How’s this for romantic? Charm City Marriage is sponsoring a Facebook contest to giveaway a free Baltimore wedding to one couple of lucky lovebirds.

The winning couple — that is, the one with the the most Facebook likes — will be announced at La Cakerie in Towson on February 16 at 5 p.m.  The wedding will take place at a Charm City Marriage bridal show on April 21st at The Engineers Club in Mt. Vernon Square.

Adopt a Pet: Baltimore Humane Society’s Pets of the Week

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Hi there! My name is Pumpkin and I’m a one year old Lion Head Dwarf Rabbit. I’m a cute little lady looking to find her forever home! I was surrendered to BHS because my previous owners bought me from a pet store and didn’t have the time to care for me. I’m very sweet and would make a great companion. I hope to meet you soon!

Destination Wedding? Look No Further Than 30 Miles Down the Road to Annapolis

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The William Paca House & Garden. Photo by David Hartcorn Photography.

Sure, destination weddings can be incredibly romantic, festive and adventurous, but they can also be a big, boring challenge for bride, groom, and guests: planning from afar can complicate the process and take the pleasure out of an already stressful life experience.

But don’t give up the faraway dream just yet. You can actually arrange for the romance of a getaway wedding weekend without renewing your passport. You want waterfront? Quaint brick-lined streets? Eighteenth century mansions? Breathtaking water views? No, not Nantucket.  We mean Annapolis, our slightly better-looking cousin to the southeast, a million miles from the look and feel of urban Baltimore, but a mere 30 miles from the city.

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